Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Women and Sexual Empowerment Series
The cast of 'The V Monologues: A Black Woman’s Perspective'

Tracie Collins
The V Monolgues: A Black Woman's Perspective
Our Women and Sexual Empowerment Series continues with a look at a new play that’s arousing interests, “The V Monologues: A Black Woman’s Interpretation.” Tracie Collins is the show’s writer, director and producer. It is derived from Eve Ensler’s groundbreaking production “The Vagina Monologues.” Tracie has worked in theater most of her life and and produced a number of shows. This is her first time in the director’s chair.

 You can see “The V Monolgues” this Saturday, October 19th at the Malonga Casquelord Theater in Oakland, Calif.

 I spoke with Tracie, a charming actress from the play named Renee Wilson; and the play’s narrator—retired San Francisco news anchor Dana King. I never thought that I'd be discussing vaginas with a journalist I admired as a teen, but it was a fun woman-to-woman conversation.

All three of these conversations  were so real and I loved every second of them.

 Now let’s talk about vaginas! Listen here or below.


Actress Renee Wilson

Veteran Journalist,
Artist and Actress Dana King 

Cocoa Fly Women and Sexual Empowerment Series: Interracial Romance Writer Roslyn Hardy Holcomb

My favorite book by Roslyn Hardy Holcomb.
It is a MUST read. But read Rock Star first.
I’ve been fascinated with sexuality for a long time.  When I was a kid, I would stay up late after Saturday Night Live and watch Dr. Ruth. I was fascinated by her voice and charm. But then I started learning things. My mother had no idea what was going on until my nine-year-old self asked her one Sunday morning, “Hey Ma, what’s ejaculation? I heard it on Dr. Ruth.”  My mother still brings up the horror she experienced. I thought she handled it well. 

Years later in college I began researching how racism and sexism affects how black women define their sexuality.  Now I’m interested women's work that empowers other women sexually. I’ll be posting podcasts with these fascinating women for the  Cocoa Fly Women and Sexual Empowerment Series.

Writer Roslyn Hardy Holcomb

We’re getting the series started with one of my favorite authors Rosyln Hardy Holcomb. She brings the sweet and HEAT in her novels. We talk about her work and sexual pleasure.  Roslyn even says sex gets better with time. I love talking about books, race, sex and writing. This interview hits on all of these topics. I hope you enjoy listening to it as much as I enjoyed the interview.

Roslyn’s latest novel is Milk & Honey.  Oooh girl!

Let’s get it started…

Monday, October 14, 2013

I Ate My Way Through Atlanta and Blogalicious 5

One of my favorite things about the South is the FOOD. I had to abandon my California, seaweed-salad eating ways and get some fried chicken. The Hyatt Regency in Atlanta has the best food I’ve ever eaten at a hotel. Still,  I made a few stops around the city for some yummy, yummy, buttery, fried and seasoned goodness. 

My first meal in Atlanta was this shrimp burger at the hotel. DELICIOUS! It came with a Mexican-flavored slaw. The buttery, chunky shrimp patty is making me salivate just thinking about it. It was so good, I didn’t put anything on it. I did scrape off most of the sauce. I loved every just juicy bite. 

Yes I ate candied bacon. I have no shame. It was hella good.  It tasted like brown sugar or maple meets bacon. The mix of sweet and salty was delish! It was a topping for a waffle.  The shrimp was also a waffle topping and soooo good. Unfortunately I missed out on the bacon doughnut. Those went quick.

Ish got real at the Dairy Queen. When I ordered hash browns, I thought it would look like those little potato paddies or tots that you get at fast food restaurants. Not at the Dairy Queen in Atlanta. Those hash browns were COUNTRY POTATOES. I loooooove country potatoes. The onions and spice made my pallet happy.

There was no way I was leaving Atlanta without stopping at Gladys Knight and Ron Winan’s Chicken and Waffles.  Fried chicken was a MUST on this trip. Luckily the restaurant was a train stop away. Too bad I found out after paying $10 for a cab, but that’s another story.  Fried chicken and hot sauce are a 
match made in my culinary heaven.

My favorite meal was the shrimp burger. In a close second, surprisingly, was my vegetarian dinner. I’ll get the name of the restaurant to you later, but it’s located in Lithonia, GA across the street from Church’s chicken. The Caribbean-inspired spot will fill you up. I had rice and peace, steamed veggies, plantains and stewed tofu. This made me more full than anything I ate during the trip. I had a food coma. Oh and you have to try their cashew smoothies. 

I used to tease my college friend for being a vegetarian, and she took me to this place.  She was right all of these years! I’m woman enough to admit when I’m wrong, and happily full.

Sunday, October 13, 2013

Run for Your Lives! We’re Under Attack By a Menstruating, Masturbating, Hairy Vagina on an American Apparel T-Shirt

Photo from AmericanApparel.net
Wow this shirt has created a huge uproar. I’m not surprised people are offended, but I like the concept. Would I wear a t-shirt of a woman masturbating while she’s on her period? No, that’s not my style. But I think this American Apparel shirt by designer Petra Collins and artist Alice Lancaster  is challenging us to think about how we view what’s considered sexy and normal in women's sexuality. 

Hairy vaginas don’t get love in these parts (pun intended). Seriously, we frown upon pubic hair and hairy vaginas aren’t considered sexy.  In pornography, the women’s pubic areas are usually bald. Therefore, the pubes are turning people off. 

Then there’s the second taboo-- menstruation. Periods aren’t usually pleasant times of the month for many.  There’s cramping, mood swings, bloating, tender breasts, issues with going to the bathroom and sometimes an odor down there from the blood.  Many cultures consider women unclean when they’re on their periods. But hey, it’s a natural thing and part of the baby development process. We benefited from menstruation blood and tissues lining the uterus when our mothers carried us.  If I bring up periods, with men especially, often they’re uncomfortable and grossed out. We need to look at it a different way. No it's not the most beautiful thing, but it's a part of life and womanhood.

So I assume no way should a woman on her period and with a hairy cha-cha, be horny.  And how dare she pleasure herself. GASP!  Women and masturbation is still a hush-hush topic.  Women have become more open about it, but I think we often associate masturbation more with men than women. There are women afraid to pleasure themselves. Some women see it as a nasty thing that good girls don’t do. But the woman on the shirt clearly has no problems with, ahem, taking care of herself.

While being on your period isn’t considered sexy, the woman on the shirt is aroused. Actually, some women’s libidos increase when they’re menstruating.  While having sex on your period is considered gross to people, a lot of men and women don’t let that stop them if they’re in the mood. So what this woman is doing on her period is not uncommon. 

Basically the artists hit on natural things that many people do/have yet find repulsive in this piece of art: pubic hair, periods and masturbation.

In an interview with Designer Petra Collins and Vice.com:

VICE: What do you think of the media storm you’ve started?

Petra Collins: It’s really awesome. I’m not surprised. It’s exactly what I wanted because it totally proves my point…
And what is your point?
 That we’re so shocked and appalled at something that’s such a natural state—and it’s funny that out of all the images everywhere, all of the sexually violent images, or disgustingly derogatory images, this is something that’s so, so shocking apparently. The graphic on my shirt is a line drawing, too. It’s not even a full-on image.

I agree with her. I’m more concerned about the violence our children are exposed to through video games, movies and television. That to me is more damaging than an image of a lady enjoying her one-woman show. The art on the shirt is not even sexualized. It's just normal. 

To me this is just edgy art. I don’t think people are offended necessarily because it’s graphic. I think people can’t handle it because it’s real. 

My Article on Depression, Religion and Stigma on the Huffington Post

I just realized that I didn't post on here about my Huffington Post article "I'm Depressed Because I Don't Have a Good Relationship with God?" In this post I discuss my past challenges with depression and how mental illness is stigmatized in many faiths. For me, I encountered this in Christianity. Please read and share.

Many people have reached out to me and thanked me for sharing my story. I appreciate the support.  We can end stigma if more of us share our stories and recognize that mental health challenges are a normal part of life. As long as you have a brain in your head, you can encounter a mental health challenge. It could be depression, anxiety, stress, etc.

Take care of your mind. Take care of yourself.

Saturday, October 12, 2013

My Last Day Without You Starring Nicole Beharie Premieres in Atlanta and I Got My Party On

In my last post I told you that a certain blogger kept me out all night in Atlanta. Well, Swirling co-author and Beyond Black & White author Christelyn Karazin knows how to have a good time. She was also in Atlanta for Blogalicious. When she invited me to attend the premiere of "My Last Day Without You"in Atlanta,  I had no I idea I was in store for a fun, long and special night.

I wrote a review of the film a while ago. To refresh your memory, the movie stars "Sleepy Hollow's" Nicole Beharie and the gorgeous actor Ken Duken. Whew that man is fine! Anyway, Ken plays a German businessman named Niklas who is in New York City for one day. He meets a pretty, aspiring singer named Leticia and things get interesting.

Christelyn Karazin and I at the
 Atlanta premiere of "My Last
Day Without You." 
The film has been screened in various parts of the country including: DC, New Orleans, Seattle and Chicago. I would love for it to come the Bay Area (hint, hint to any of the filmmakers reading this).

There were some sistas sitting in the movie theater in front of Christelyn and I. During a scene where Niklas goes in for a kiss with Leticia one of them said, "Oh Lord." Then they giggled nervously, starting texting someone, and one of them turned around to look at me. I don't know why the woman turned to me for help. LOL  However, when Leticia's father embraced a Latina, they didn't react. I understand that I was in the South and maybe black women swirling isn't as common there as in cities like DC or New York. But I find it ironic and sad that many black women are still giving a pass to black men loving across colors lines. While it's still considered taboo when black women do it.

Check out Christelyn's interview with the film's director Stefan Schafer and screenwriter Christoph Silber. The film is inspired by Silber's own personal experience. He met his wife on the subway in Brooklyn.

After the film, Christelyn and I went to Vanquish Lounge for the VIP after party. We kicked it with the director, writer and met Nichole Beharie’s family. She was supposed to attend the screening but couldn’t make it. I’m a big fan of her acting, and one day I will meet her.

I had a lot of fun at Vanquish and everybody was really nice, down the earth. I partied until the bouncers told us to go home. When in Rome do what the Romans do. When in Atlanta do what T.I. said, “Live your life.”

Hanging out with screenwriter Christoph Silber at
the VIP after part to the screening. 
Support this film. Ask AMC to bring it to your city. It’s a really cute romantic comedy and I love cute rom coms. Nicole Beharie and Ken Duken have great chemistry. Maybe that’s why those black women almost died and cried out for the Lord when they were about to kiss. LOL

Follow the film’s Facebook page for updates and to find out if it’s coming to your area. 

Cocoa Fly Works and Plays Hard in Atlanta during Blogalicous 5.

The city of Atlanta has always been good to me. And no doubt, did I have a great time again in “The A.” This time it was for Blogalicious 5, a multicultural conference for women bloggers. This year we celebrated the conference’s much deserved 5 year anniversary.  I highly suggest for any serious blogger to attend. Between the networking and informative workshops, you will definitely walk away with plenty of resources. And the people who attend are awesome. It's truly a community.  This was my first time back in Atlanta since being a Spelman exchange student in 2001. I was so excited to speak at the conference about awareness blogging or covering social issues in social media.

The first night was a Scandal viewing party. Our outfits were Olivia Pope inspired.  I kept it classy with a black dress. Xfinity sponsored the event. We were hooked up with a red carpet, champagne and gourmet popcorn. It was really nice. But I must say, watching the season's premiere with 100+ mostly black women was an unforgettable experience. There was a lot of talking back to the screen. HaHaHa!

Thursday, September 26, 2013

Dear Blogalicious...

Photo by Vanessa of @DeSuMama

Dear Blogalicious,

Normally I adhere to the rule, “What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.” But I couldn’t resist telling people about the amazing time I had at Blogalicious 2012 in Las Vegas.
Last year’s conference was my first. I was a bit nervous because I attended alone. But I’m so glad I took the risk. I was in a space that I identified with so much; a conference full of creative, passionate women with business dreams, who love social media and desire to learn more. I found myself among a group of people who work hard, but make time for fun too. I was in love.

Through Blogalicious I learned more about Google+ and branding.

I connected with a social media maven I’ve admired for a long time. 

I met the first black woman to win a Sundance award for best film director (and she follows me on Twitter).

Thursday, September 5, 2013

Cocoa Fly is Heading to the ATL to Speak at Blogalicous 2013 & How to Get a Discount Off Registration

 I'm excited. I'm hyped. I'm ready to get crunk (do people still say that?)! I haven't been back in Atlanta since 2001. And what a great time to return as a speaker for Blogalicious 2013. I love this conference and this year they're celebrating 5 years of success. You learn so much information at Blogalicious and have tons of fun while doing so. Whew, I had too much fun last year!

This year I will be facilitating a discussion panel called "Spreading a Message, Sharing a Mission: A Conversation About Awareness Blogging." We'll be discussing ways to blog about serious topics, branding and how you can make a difference with your voice while still profiting.

It's going to be a great discussion with:

Christine Koh of Bostonmamas.com and TheMissionList.com, an online community of women with social media influence who want to use it for social good. She's been covered all over the place in respected media outlets like Redbook, NPR and the New York Times.

Rhachelle Nicol, whom I had the pleasure of kicking it with last year, blogs about domestic violence and healing on her website RhachelleNicol.com. Her brand of t-shirts "I Show My Scars So They Can Heal" have been a big hit in the Christian community. She'll also talk about merchandising your brand.

Lisa Quinones-Fontanez is founder of the award-winning blog AutismWonderland.com. There she writes about her family's experience with a child who lives with autism and gives readers the 411 on sources for kids with special needs. Last year Babble rated her blog one of the top 10 blogs for parents with autism.

If you follow this blog, you know mental health is one of my passions. I cover mental health on my show award-winning show Mental Health and Wellness Radio. And I blog about it on Cocoa Fly in my "Girl, Get Your Head Right" series.

We all take on social issues, but bring our own flavor. I can't wait to chat with these ladies. If you want to go to Blogalicious there's still time to register. And lucky you because I got the hookup. Get 30% off registration by using the code SpeakerFriend at http://bit.ly/12BnBJS before it sells out.

I can't wait to visit Atlanta and catch up with sorors, visit the King Center, see Spelman, and eat some fried chicken. I cut meat out of my diet by 95%. But I'm hitting up a Waffle House and Gladys Knight's restaurant. You can't go to the South and not eat fried chicken. And I couldn't miss Blogalicious this year. I hope to see you there!

Sunday, August 4, 2013

Speak On It! Iyanla Vanzant and Essence blogger Jai Stone Call For Black Women to Get it Together Part 2

Essence "Emotional Nudity" blogger
Jai Stone tells it like it is. 

Iyanla’s video wasn’t the only thing on point this past week. Essence magazine’s “Emotional Nudity” blogger Jai Stone had me shouting AMEN too. Her post “Emotional Nudity: Stop Comparing Yourself to Her” tells it like it is.

I give Jai Stone props for sharing that back in her 20’s, she was the insecure type of woman who didn't have much good to say about other women.   

She wrote:"I remember looking at other ladies and making a mental note of all their flaws so that I could give myself an emotional high-five. Her teeth are crooked but mine are straight…one point for me. She has a better figure, but my skin is smoother….two points for me. It was extremely hard for me to give another woman a compliment because secretly I felt that it took something from me."

Stone said this attitude came from having low self-esteem.

“Women. Ugh. We have this insane need to validate ourselves by devaluing others… I’m not ashamed to admit that I suffered from low self-esteem for many years, and it has taken almost as many to learn to love myself from within instead of depending on the opinions of others. Once I became less dependent on outside validation, I found less need to compare myself to those women around me.”

I run from women who do what Stone used to do. I’ve gone out with women to kick it. And if they spend most of the night saying, “Oooh, look what she got on.” Or, “Oh hell no, she need to…” That’s usually the last time I hang out with them. Even in high school I distanced myself from girls like that. Like Stone said it is an issue of self-esteem. When you got it going on, and feel good about yourself, you don’t have time to criticize others. Ironically, in my experience I’ve found that these women who like to talk mess, tend to sit in the corner at a party just talking mess. They hardly get up to socialize because they probably don’t feel they have nothing to offer. That's not always the case, but it's sad.

Envy or comparing yourself to someone else is natural. Who doesn’t do it? I find when I do start comparing myself to others, I need check in with myself. I ask myself, “Why am I feeling this way?”  “What is this really about?” “If she’s living her life or has something that I desire, how can I achieve something similar for myself?”

Which goes back to the woman I told you about who tried to pick a fight at the gas station. She was so angered, I feel, by what she saw I had. But if she had a better attitude, I probably could’ve referred her to resources that could’ve helped her. We need to do better with checking in with ourselves instead of acting on emotion. 

Jai Stone said she kicked her Haterade habit by complimenting women, being kinder to herself, and steering herself away from negative people.

Don’t let your confidence be tied up in the need to be better than others rather than to be your best,” she wrote. AMEN AMEN AMEN Miss Stone! 

What Stone wrote about just doesn’t pertain to black women. White women do it too. As do Asian women, Latinas, etc. Insecure women come in all races.  I’m a black woman who hangs out mostly with black women. So I've seen black women putting down others to validate themselves. I’ve been put down by other women who needed an esteem boost. But that boost is only temporary. It doesn't fill your soul or make your life better in the long run. 

 With many black women dealing with racism, sexism, classism, raising kids alone, trying to protect their sons and daughters, poverty, health issues, etc; it just seems that we could rise higher if we worked together and uplifted each other.

As Iyanla said, we are out of order. It’s time for us to get it together. 

Speak On It! Iyanla Vanzant and Essence blogger Jai Stone Call For Black Women to Get it Together Part I

OWN's Iyanla Vanzant schools black women in this Madam Noire

Last year I picked up my friend from the Oakland airport. We were going to celebrate my birthday in Napa. I was wearing a Spelman sweatshirt. I stopped off at the gas station to fill up and clean my dirty windows before hitting the road. When I pulled up to the gas station, the 3rd spot on the end was empty. Two other cars occupied the pumps in front of me. While pumping my gas, the other two cars left and a raggedy, white car pulled up behind me. There was no pump behind me, but the two in front were empty.  The driver was a black woman. A few minutes passed and I hear the driver saying something about, “This bitch needs to move her car.” Long story short, I figured the woman was talking about me. By then most of the station’s pumps were available. I kindly said, “Sista, you can pull around.” But she wanted me to move. She follows me into the store where I got my change and called me a “stupid bitch.” She kept calling me “stupid” and mentioned that she couldn’t move her car far because she was out of gas.  I didn’t know if she had a gun, but I could tell she wanted to fight. I think the real reason why she was angry with me was because she saw my Spelman sweatshirt, UCSD alumni license plate frame and my car looked better than hers. She tried to get a rise out of me by calling me “stupid” because she knew I wasn’t (My friend in the car is a lawyer and witnessed the whole thing. So if she attacked me, who would’ve been the stupid one? ). I ignored her which made her angrier. So I walked away, got in my car and went home to change for Napa. I thought about that woman at the gas station and other sistas after watching Iyanla’s interview with MadameNoire.com where says black women are “out of order.”

“We dishonor, betray and defile one another,” Vanzant said. And she’s right. Sadly, so many reality shows like the Real Housewives, Basketball Wives, etc. make money off of black women acting catty and bitchy with each other.

“We live in a society now where women are commodities, “ Vanzant said. “Where women are demeaned, diminished, demoralized in ways that we accommodate. And if we really understood who we are, as feminine representation of the Creator of the Universe…we wouldn’t be so apt to let other people define us and confine us. We are out of order. “

Amen Iyanla. WE ARE OUT OF ORDER. And we don’t know who we are. Sometimes I see younger sistas in the store talking loud, cussing, talking about their boyfriend and some girl that wants him, etc. And if they only knew their greatness and their ancestry… if they only knew they are more than their hair, their vagina, their breasts, their extensions, their acrylic nails, they’re boyfriends, they’re baby daddies and husbands, their cars, their man’s car, their designer bags and clothes. Like Iyanla said they wouldn’t allow others to “define and confine us.”

And finally Iyanla hits another homerun when she said, “There’s no reason for us to continue to have children with men who don’t honor us and don’t take care of their children.”

Sometimes I see mothers talking so bad to their children. I’m talking about the one’s that you can clearly see are abusive. And parts of me wonder if they’re taking out their anger for the child’s father on the child.  Sometimes people change. And maybe there were no signs that the father would turn out to be a deadbeat. But some women get plenty of signs that the men they’re with ain’t shit and still get pregnant by him anyway. Many of us probably know a woman who settled with a man they knew, and everybody else knew, wasn’t a good man or a good father. Sista stop settling for the sperm!

Iyanla’s video wasn’t the only thing on point this past week. Essence magazine’s “Emotional Nudity”blogger Jai Stone had me shouting AMEN too.  I'll tell you why in Part 2

Monday, July 22, 2013

The Freedom of Being Yourself

One of the greatest freedoms one can ever have is the freedom to be their true self.  If you look throughout history many people have fought and died for that freedom. The freedom to be gay and walk hand-in-hand with your partner. The freedom to wear your hair the way you want without people judging your beauty or political beliefs. The freedom to practice your religion. The freedom to be a young black man walking down the street without someone harassing you and assuming you're a thug (Justice for Trayvon). And the freedom to not be judged for having a mental health challenge or a disability and be labeled as helpless or worthless. 

For a long time I grappled with accepting myself. The nerdiness, managing my depression, being called a white girl because I spoke proper English, having dark skin, etc. But the day I got tired of beating myself  up and decided those who don't like my true self can kick rocks was life changing. What I have learned, especially since wearing my hair natural, is that sometimes people hate on those who are "different" because they're envious and wish they could be their true selves. Think about it. Look at people like the ministers Eddie Long and Ted Haggard. Both were publicly anti-gay, but men have come forward and said privately they weren't practicing what they preached. And I've had sistas tell me they wished they had courage to wear their hair natural, but they stick to the creamy crack because straight hair is more acceptable. 

I recently recorded a short op-ed about this topic called "Freedom and the Mental Health Movement" for my show Mental Health and Wellness Radio. It's about mental health, but pertains to all of us because we all have brains. Therefore we all need to take care of our mental health. Please give it a listen and let me know what you think. In the meantime, be happy being yourself. 

Sunday, June 23, 2013

Dark Girls Premieres on OWN Tonight

I'm so happy that OWN will be airing the documentary Dark Girls. The explores colorism or hue discrimination against Black women.  As you probably know, I won my first journalism award last year thanks to this film. I did an audio feature called "Dark Girls Documentary and the Psychological Effects of Colorism." I interviewed the film's directors Bill Duke and D. Channsin Berry, as well as shared my own personal experience with colorism. The story aired on my other show Mental Health and Wellness Radio.

Colorism is hue discrimination in the Black Diaspora. People are treated differently and mistreated because their skin is of a lighter or darker shade in the black and brown color spectrum.

How sad that we're still talking about this in 2013. This division began in slavery and hasn't ended. But I guess it's hard when mainstream media pushes fairness as the only shade of beauty.

I like the film. It gives a great explanation of the issue  and it's not an "I'm dark-skinned and life sucks" film. The documentary also celebrates the beauty of black skin.

Check it out. Please leave your thoughts about the film here or Facebook or Twitter. I would love to know your opinion.

Dark Girls: A World Television Premiere Event - First Look
Dark Girls is a fascinating and controversial documentary film that goes underneath the surface to explore the prejudices that dark-skinned women face throughout the world. It explores the roots of classism, racism and the lack of self-esteem within a segment of cultures that span from America to the most remote corners of the globe. Women share their personal stories, touching on deeply ingrained beliefs and attitudes of society, while allowing generations to heal as they learn to love themselves for who they are. Watch the world television premiere of Dark Girls on OWN. Tune in Sunday, June 23, at 10/9c.

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Girl Take Time for Your Mind…And Get Your Dance On

One of my favorite things to do in the world is dance. I’ve been dancing since before I was born. My mother says that when she was pregnant with me, I’d start kicking when she turned on her car radio. I’m sure hearing music by the likes of Rick James and Michael Jackson got me hyped as a fetus. I haven’t studied dance. I’m not a professional, but I love it.

Sure dancing is good for my body, but it does wonders for my mind. Those of you who follow this blog know when I’m feeling blue, I will put on my Madonna CD and dance in my living room until I’m sweaty. Or  I’ll turn it out to the Cupid Shuffle, the Wobble. I may play some ‘90s hip hop (even Uncle Luke) or Latin music. I feel at my freest when I’m dancing. There’s something about the freedom of creatively moving your body. And girl, I dance like no one’s watching even if someone is watching.

The photo of me is from a blues class I took in San Francisco. My partner in the photo was the instructor for the night. As you can see I was having fun, being free. I didn’t know what I was doing, but I enjoyed myself. And it didn’t hurt that the instructor was cute. I haven’t been back in a while, but I want to take up blues dancing again. It’s a lot of fun.

At first I was nervous doing blues dancing because your partner has to be really close to you. But then I remembered how my friends and I used to get down in college. In blues dancing, your partner is close to you like when you were grinding at a college frat party. But there’s more of an art to the movement in blues. I need to get active again, and this is on my list.

If you’re in a slump, get your dance on. It could be at a club or in your den. Just move, spin, twirl, drop like it’s hot, do the robot. If you’re feeling good, dance. You’re bored? Dance. Just dance.

Single ladies, look for blues dancing in your area. There are usually a lot of men there. 


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