Starting Your Dreams Later In Life and Embracing the Detour

Jenee Darden speaking at Creative Mornings I know it's been a while since I've posted anything but that's because of my job. I'm working as a reporter covering Oakland and I host an arts segment on the radio where I get to interview amazing artists from around the Bay Area. Plus I'm publicizing my book  and building my speaking career!  You know what's funny? I thought this would all happen by the time I was 27-30.  Nope. That wasn't God's plan for me. I'm finally beginning to do the things I've wanted to do and I'm almost 40 years old. Some people reading this who are 40 will say 40 is still young. But some younger people reading may think 40 is nearly ancient. But I'm writing this post for those who like me, thought their career and personal dreams would come true much early in life. I'm here to tell you not to give up.  You know, death inspires life. A number of my relatives and friends have passed away, ranging in

When Pleasure Tastes Like Bedroom Kandi

From Bedroom Kandi press page
For the entire month of November, I'm bringing you my Black Women & Sexual Empowerment SeriesFollow on social media at #BlackWomenSexuality. 

In the years of covering black women and sexuality, I’ve only met a few sistas who have their own sexual consumer products. There were these women at Erotica LA (that was so much fun!). Fingers crossed, I’ll introduce you to Neena Joyner later on in the series. She owns the sex shop Feelmore in Oakland. And then Miss Real Housewives of Atlanta, Miss X-Scape, Miss hella dope songwriter and producer, Miss business woman herself: Kandi Burruss. 

Kandi put the $ in plea$ure with her line Bedroom Kandi. She’s in partnership with the company OhMiBod. They made the original iPod vibrator where it vibrated at the speed of the song being played. Kandi’s line includes toys, lingerie, oils, candles, and kink toys.  Since meeting her a few years ago, she has taken the line to a Mary Kay, Avon level where women can sell the products as consultants. Props to her for getting her line out through women’s entrepreneurship. Make that dough and get an O.

Kandi is all kind of sexy and successful in this picture.
Photo from Bedroom Kandi press page. 

Kandi’s line was, and still is, a big deal to me because very few black women have their own line of sex toys. And why not? We sing about sex. We dance sexy in the media. We perform and pose in porn. And we buy sex toys. Why not own our pleasure on this level?? I hope this opens the doors for other black women to have products. What Kandi’s business also says to black women is that we deserve to experience sexual pleasure too.

She’s such a sweet and down to earth woman. You can read about my meeting with her here.

All Tied Up. Photo from
Bedroom Kandi Press Page