Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Catch My NPR Story About
An Interracial Dating Seminar for Black Women
Finally, my story on black women and interracial dating for NPR's "All Things Considered" is done! It aired Tuesday. You can listen to the story below. I've wanted to do a story on this for a while now. The piece is about an interracial dating seminar for black women called "The Black Girls Guide to Interracial Dating." Fleace Weaver created the seminar. She's founder and CEO of BlackWeekly.com and BlackGirlTravel.com.
With just a week of advertisement more than 120 women attended the event in Culver City, CA. I was impressed with the high turnout but at the same time not surprised. When I told my soror whom I'll call Professor C about the number of people that showed up she laughed slightly and said, "Girl, a lot of sistas are lonely." This story is like a sign of the times. With Weaver's seminar and blogs like Black Female Interracial Marriage or Date a White Guy, it seems like many sistas are tired of singlehood and want to venture out. Since more black men and women are "down with the swirl," could this time be a major turning point in the African-American community? Will there be less racial loyalty to the black race if more black women and men are dating outside of the box? What kind of impact will this have on black female and black male relations in the future? These are just questions I'm throwing out.
Back to the seminar, it was very interesting. I held my tongue a few times because I had on my journalism hat. Observe and record mode for me only. Some of the attendees date interracially and came to check out the seminar for fun. Others have never dated outside of their race and curiosity brought them to the event. One woman I spoke with was a bit uncomfortable. Of course, she wouldn't let me record her. She's single and feels like dating an non-black man was like selling out. One woman told me she didn't identify with the black women on the panel and wasn't convinced to date interracially. Other women I spoke with enjoyed the program, wanted to mingle with the male panelists (white, Latino, Asian) and give interracial dating a try.
One of the questions that continued to come up was "How do I know if a non-black man likes me?" The men told them if he gives you eye contact, smile, says hi, etc. he's digging you. They wanted to know if non-black men have the same swagger some brothas do when approaching a woman. The panelists again said smiling, eye contact, saying hi--all good signs. I think we may have been stuck on this question, because some women in the audience couldn't make the connection that non-black men are attracted to black women. And some women weren't sure if a non-black man wanted to date them because of the stereotype of black women as being hypersexual. If I weren't covering the seminar I would've asked the white men what do they say to their black girlfriends/wives if they vent about a racist experience. Remember that scene at the grocery store in the movie Something New?
All in all, a very interesting day. Weaver says she's taking the seminar on the road to Chicago, Atlanta and NYC later this year. Don't forget to listen to the story below and feel free to speak your mind. Check back in a few days because I will post interviews from the seminar that didn't make the cut.
UPDATE: EXTRA AUDIO IS ON THE 2ND HALF OF THE COCOA FLY NEWS SHOW HERE