Cheers! My Birthday Celebration with the Napa Valley Wine Country Tours

After losing my grandmother a few weeks before my birthday, I really needed to celebrate life. I know she would want me to do that. This year, I decided to ring in a new year of life in wine country. My soror traveled up from So Cal to visit. This would be her first time in Napa. I didn’t want to drive so instead, we bought bus tickets for the Napa Valley Wine Country Tours.

Let me tell you something, going on this bus tour was one of the BEST decisions I made. The Napa Valley Wine Country Tours bus isn’t just any bus. It’s a limo bus that looks like a VIP club lounge on wheels. We paid $119 for an 8-hour trip, visit to 4 wineries in Sonoma and Napa counties, continental breakfast and lunch. It was worth every penny. The tastings aren't covered in the bus fare, but they ran about $10-$25. Wineries won't charge you for tastings if you buy a bottle. I recommend this for tourists and any Bay Area locals who have folks visiting from out of town and want a short excursion to Nap…

What's Most Disturbing About Al Franken Groping Leann Tweeden

Al Franken
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Man, it's raining perps. And Sen. Al Franken is another drop in this storm of high-profile sexual violators being exposed for not keeping their damn hands to themselves. In Sen. Franken's case, he allegedly couldn't keep his tongue to himself.

KABC radio anchor Leeann Tweeden  recently came forward about then-Saturday Night Live writer Al Franken sexually harassing her and assaulting while on tour overseas in2006 to entertain U.S. troops. She said he forcefully kissed her during rehearsal for a skit. Read the details here if you don't know them already.

You've probably seen the photo of Franken groping Tweeden's breasts while she's asleep back. He's smiling like it's so cute and funny. It's not. His cockiness disturbed me. He didn't have to document the groping. But he knew nothing would happen to him.

That speaks to how the punishment for men, especially powerful men like Sen Franken, is light to none when they assault women. It speaks to his male privilege in knowing that he can grab a woman's breasts, in her sleep, without consent and pose for a photo because not a damn will happen to him.  Our rape culture that blames women, along with Sen. Franken's wealth, inlfuence and gender privilege has given him a pass.

Men will continue to feel entitled to women's bodies, because society doesn't harshly punish boys and men who do violate. The first time I recall being groped was by middle school boys. Boys (mis)learn early that a girl's breasts, ass, thigh, etc. are literally up for grab because they have a penis.

Al Franken was a writer for a legendary TV show and eventually became a U.S. senator.  Tweeden didn't say anything years ago because of his power. Like Tweeden said, who's going to believe her? She was a Playboy model. Posing on the cover of Playboy doesn't mean she wants any and every man to touch her.  Well, Leeanne Tweeden bravely came forward.

Good for her.

Sen. Franklin has issued an apology is willing to cooperate with an investigation.

I know a lot of women. Women of different races, cultures, sizes, sexualities, religious beliefs, economic classes, etc. I can't think of any who HAVE NOT either been sexually assaulted or sexually harassed.  I know a number of men who have been victims too.  Terry Crews is brave for sharing his story of a Hollywood agent groping him.

I hope none of these people's careers suffer. People thinking they can do this kind of stuff needs to stop.