Starting Your Dreams Later In Life and Embracing the Detour

Jenee Darden speaking at Creative Mornings I know it's been a while since I've posted anything but that's because of my job. I'm working as a reporter covering Oakland and I host an arts segment on the radio where I get to interview amazing artists from around the Bay Area. Plus I'm publicizing my book  and building my speaking career!  You know what's funny? I thought this would all happen by the time I was 27-30.  Nope. That wasn't God's plan for me. I'm finally beginning to do the things I've wanted to do and I'm almost 40 years old. Some people reading this who are 40 will say 40 is still young. But some younger people reading may think 40 is nearly ancient. But I'm writing this post for those who like me, thought their career and personal dreams would come true much early in life. I'm here to tell you not to give up.  You know, death inspires life. A number of my relatives and friends have passed away, ranging in

I Don't Want a Man Who Only Texts Me

My thoughts are in the short video below: 

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I don't know who created this meme but I'm with them 100%. You can't get to know someone just through messaging. I can't tell you how many times I've given out my phone number to guys, only to discover they just want to text me. The same problem is with online dating. I'll give someone the digits so we can meet up and they'll stop messaging me. All that says to me is that he's playing, hiding something and is not taking getting to know me seriously.

A man who only texts is a sign of communication problems to come. I dated a guy who told me if possible, he would buy a smartphone for texting only and would disable the phone function. He hated talking on the phone. I learned down the line that he was a terrible communicator, and the relationship didn't work. 

Ladies, if he or she, is only messaging you, they're not serious. If all you want is messaging that's fine. But if you want something more, and they can't pick up the phone or meet you in person, they're not serious. In person and voice contact are priceless. We can't lose that in this digital age. 


  1. Girl YES! My husband didn't want to text me. He always wanted to talk on the phone! Haha; he thinks texting is inpersonal . That's when I knew he was def the one.

    1. Oooh girl you hit the jackpot!! Good for you. He wanted to communicate and he was SERIOUS about getting to know you.


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