Cheers! My Birthday Celebration with the Napa Valley Wine Country Tours

After losing my grandmother a few weeks before my birthday, I really needed to celebrate life. I know she would want me to do that. This year, I decided to ring in a new year of life in wine country. My soror traveled up from So Cal to visit. This would be her first time in Napa. I didn’t want to drive so instead, we bought bus tickets for the Napa Valley Wine Country Tours.

Let me tell you something, going on this bus tour was one of the BEST decisions I made. The Napa Valley Wine Country Tours bus isn’t just any bus. It’s a limo bus that looks like a VIP club lounge on wheels. We paid $119 for an 8-hour trip, visit to 4 wineries in Sonoma and Napa counties, continental breakfast and lunch. It was worth every penny. The tastings aren't covered in the bus fare, but they ran about $10-$25. Wineries won't charge you for tastings if you buy a bottle. I recommend this for tourists and any Bay Area locals who have folks visiting from out of town and want a short excursion to Nap…

I’m Not Slut Shaming Melania Trump, I’m Speaking the Truth


Melania Trump posed nude back in the day. SO WHAT? I recall when she and Donald married, there were news stories about her past sexy photos. Some of my favorite works of art are nudes. Melania Trump was a young and gorgeous model in Europe – where people are more open-minded when it comes to nudes. She’s still a beautiful woman. I don’t judge her for taking it off.

Her past life as a model doesn’t make Melania Trump dumb either. Before Trump showed his cray-cray, I watched Melania Trump on the Oprah Show and selling products on QVC and HSN. She never came off unintelligent to me. Which is why a part of me wonders if she purposefully plagiarized Michelle Obama’s speech. Was it to get the base behind her early before more nude pictures were leaked? Being FLOTUS has its perks, but I wouldn’t want to be FLOTUS if I was Melania. Leave my glamorous New York lifestyle and penthouse for the White House? Give up my and my son’s privacy to live in a fishbowl and have security around me at all times for the rest of my life? Absolutely not. I could be wrong, but I digress.

Melania Trump posing nude has nothing to do with her morality or intellect. Yet I find it hypocritical that so many conservatives lost it when Michelle Obama posed with bare arms for her first White House photo in 2009. Melania Trump exposed her T & A, did nude lesbian photo shoots (we know how the Christian Right feels about homosexuality). Reaction from the right--crickets. This is not just about a difference in political affiliation, but race.


Source: Instagram

Mrs. Obama’s femininity was under attack from the beginning. We still live in a society where when it comes to who represents what it means to be a lady, Black women are often omitted from that category. This omission of Black women comes from people within and outside of the Black community. For racist conservatives, a tall, darker-skinned, Black woman shouldn’t be considered a lady, let alone First Lady of the United States. Why do you think Sojourner Truth asked, “Ain’t I a Woman?” in 1851? And Black women are still fighting for our womanhood to be respected.

If Michelle Obama showed half a butt cheek, conservatives would have called for Barack Obama to remove himself from the election. And they would slut shame Michelle Obama until she took her last breath. I imagine racist and sexist conservatives reminding Michelle Obama everyday on their blogs, social media, radio shows etc. that she doesn’t deserve the title of FLOTUS because she showed her black, bare body.

Michelle Obama's First Official
White House Photo
When white women are seen as the epitome of true womanhood in a racist, sexist and classist society (I go more into detail on this issue here under the Black Sexuality section), and the voter wants a racist and sexist white male candidate so badly—they’ll look past these photos of Melania Trump. In their eyes, she’s still more fit to be First Lady because she’s white. And they’ll criticize Michelle Obama, an Ivy-League educated black woman, from the tip of her high-heels to the slicked baby hair strands of her edges because she is Black.

This is not the only racial double standard I’ve noticed in this election. If Pres. Obama had children
Posters on the street
during Pres. Obama's 2nd Inauguration
Credit: Jenee Darden
by three women…whew! Bring on the comments about Black baby daddies, Black men not being to control their sexual urges, creating dysfunctional families; single, Black mothers etc. What do many conservatives say about Trump and his three wives? Nothing much. And remember when many conservatives criticized the Obamas for being elite because of their Ivy League degrees? I don’t recall them calling The Trumps or even The Bush family elitists.


The dragging of Melania Trump with these old nude photos is wrong and sexist. The years of Michelle being compared to men, monkeys, and just the overall disrespect are wrong, sexist and racist. Michelle Obama is a great First Lady, and Melania Trump seems like a nice woman. Neither woman deserves these attacks. However, people calling out the racial double standard between reactions to Melania and Michelle is not slut shaming. It’s speaking the truth. And the truth is if Michelle Obama had posed nude, we wouldn’t have a Black family in the White House today.




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  1. Oooh! I've been dying for you to do a post on the new Miss Teen USA's past racist tweets! That is just crazy!!

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  2. Miss Teen USA should take away her crown. Because hip hop has become mainstream and they use the n-word, their non-Black fans want to say the word. They don't know the history and many think it's cool. Or they don't care about the history and just want to say it. The few times I heard anyone in my family use the N-word it was not out of endearment. It was usually to describe someone who was lazy, unreliable, not to be trusted, etc. And White folks need to realize not all Black people use the N-word. A lot of us don't. I don't call my Black friends the N-word. I refer to them as brotha and sista. And I've told friends who like to use that word, not to refer to me as such. Rappers don't represent all African Americans. And for Miss Teen USA to let a white girl who tweeted the N-word keep her crown says to me they condone her using that word.

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