Starting Your Dreams Later In Life and Embracing the Detour

Jenee Darden speaking at Creative Mornings I know it's been a while since I've posted anything but that's because of my job. I'm working as a reporter covering Oakland and I host an arts segment on the radio where I get to interview amazing artists from around the Bay Area. Plus I'm publicizing my book  and building my speaking career!  You know what's funny? I thought this would all happen by the time I was 27-30.  Nope. That wasn't God's plan for me. I'm finally beginning to do the things I've wanted to do and I'm almost 40 years old. Some people reading this who are 40 will say 40 is still young. But some younger people reading may think 40 is nearly ancient. But I'm writing this post for those who like me, thought their career and personal dreams would come true much early in life. I'm here to tell you not to give up.  You know, death inspires life. A number of my relatives and friends have passed away, ranging in

Amber Rose Gives Kanye West the Greatest Twitter Clap Back of All Time

How did it come to this? I reluctantly logged on to Twitter today after being so OVER #OscarsSoWhite, white girls in Arizona spelling out the N-word with their t-shirts, Donald Trump, Sarah Palin and the last thing to put me over the top--a white actor being cast to play Michael Jackson in a film. JESUS BE A FENCE AROUND MY MIND. 

Leave it to Kanye West's hugely inflated ego to take my mind away from the woes of the world. Kanye West got into a Twitter beef with Wiz Khalifa. Wiz didn't approve of the title of Kanye's album. Wiz thought Ye's title was biting off rapper Max B's brand and style. Max B is doing 75 years in jail. Clutch explains it all here

Wiz Khalifa is the father of Amber Rose's son. You know Amber Rose and Kanye used to date. Kanye thought Wiz Khalifa was insulting Kim Kardashian in a tweet, so he went after both Amber Rose and her kid. Check out the foolishness below. 

Amber didn't just respond to Kanye, she got in his ass (pun intended).  

Amber Rose won! Yes, Amber Rose not only came out victorious in the Tweeter beef between Kanye and Wiz Khalifa. But she holds the crown for the Greatest Clap Back of All Time. She shut Kanye up and shut him down. The lesson today is don't come after someone with a large social media following who has nothing to do with your beef, but has literally been up in your behind. 

Kanye acts like he never had a relationship with Amber Rose. Why does he slut shame her? Especially since she has never spilled the tea on their relationship. They broke up and she pretty much kept quiet. Other women would be putting Kanye's business out all over the globe. As for Amber Rose stripping, how is she different from Kim Kardashian who got famous for a sex tape and has posed nude?  Kanye's wife/mother of his child and ex-girlfriend are both famous for their sexualities and who they dated. I'm not shaming Kim K. nor Amber Rose. But why is Kanye shaming one over the other? Clearly he has a type. Is it because he married Kim instead of Amber? Remember his 30 showers comment?  Men like him crack me up, because they sleep with women call them all kinds of names. But if he slept with Amber, dated Amber  and looks down on her because she was a stripper, what does that make him? Mind you, he raps about sleeping around.  Kanye, Kim and Amber are all kinky, and that's okay. Shaming your equals is not okay. 

The major differences between Kim K. and Amber are race and class. Kim has way more money than Amber Rose. And although Amber Rose doesn't identify as black, she is seen and treated as a black woman. I can't think of any black women who built an empire near the level of Kim Kardashian from exposing their bodies. Pamela Anderson (love her), Jenny McCartney are examples of a few white women who made it big after posing nude. Karrine Steffans, a black woman,  got the title Superhead for her fellatio skills in porn. She wrote bestselling books but did not achieve the level of success as Kim K. Part of that is Kris Jenner' genius and Kim K. not being a black woman. Although she and her family have appropriated black female culture and sexuality. Black female sexuality carries labels that aren't ascribed to white women. Kanye's misogynoir  comments about Amber Rose reflect that stigma and idealization of white female sexuality as opposed to black female sexuality. Kim K and Amber are both sexualized celebrities, but Amber is the one he sees as the dirty bad girl undeserving of respect. 

Kanye West needs to leave Amber Rose alone. I wouldn't be surprised if he stops mentioning her after this information was dropped. The fact that he still brings her up tells me he hasn't moved on. Maybe he misses Amber's magic touch.