Cheers! My Birthday Celebration with the Napa Valley Wine Country Tours

After losing my grandmother a few weeks before my birthday, I really needed to celebrate life. I know she would want me to do that. This year, I decided to ring in a new year of life in wine country. My soror traveled up from So Cal to visit. This would be her first time in Napa. I didn’t want to drive so instead, we bought bus tickets for the Napa Valley Wine Country Tours.

Let me tell you something, going on this bus tour was one of the BEST decisions I made. The Napa Valley Wine Country Tours bus isn’t just any bus. It’s a limo bus that looks like a VIP club lounge on wheels. We paid $119 for an 8-hour trip, visit to 4 wineries in Sonoma and Napa counties, continental breakfast and lunch. It was worth every penny. The tastings aren't covered in the bus fare, but they ran about $10-$25. Wineries won't charge you for tastings if you buy a bottle. I recommend this for tourists and any Bay Area locals who have folks visiting from out of town and want a short excursion to Nap…

Macy Gray Sings Her Heart Out to Her Vibrator B.O.B. and Encourages Women to Self-Pleasure

From Macy Gray's video B.O.B.
With all of the crazy, evil stuff going on in the world, I needed this laugh. Yes, singer Macy Gray made a love song about her Battery Operated Boyfriend or BOB. 

In this cheesy, adorable, cartoon music video that carries a lot of truth, she tells us what makes B.O.B. so great.

He gets me so excited. I turn him on. We go baby GO.
Start the fire and lightening, oooh ahhh oooh
I love my baby BOB…
He can go all night
Dark until the night
And we stop when I want to

I understand why she adores BOB and released a cartoon video with happy BOBs of different colors and batteries frolicking through her bedroom.

The song is catchy and the video is entertaining. Another reason why I like it is because it’s about masturbation. And a lot of women are uncomfortable talking about masturbation. Men are more open to talking about it than women. Macy Gray told Elle magazine, “I hope it opens women up to talk about what's really real for them. Women always have to be so private about [their sexuality] and their periods, whereas guys can just talk about their penises and whatever. Girls always have to be so ladylike about it. I hope girls can start talking...and just say the crudest stuff. 

I feel her, and I would also argue that women talking about masturbation or periods doesn’t even have to be crude. It can just be what it is. If you want to be crude about it, do you.

Self-pleasuring is healthy and it’s the safest form of sex you can have. Masturbation releases stress and anxiety. There are also studies that show women who do their “one-woman shows” have higher self-esteem and a more active sex life. You can read more about this at Women’s Health Magazine.

When I co-presented a workshop to women on pleasure after trauma, there were women in the room who had never masturbated. And some women said they were heading to Good Vibrations right after the workshop (Good Vibrations gave us a discount code for attendees). Some of these women were in their golden years and had never gave themselves pleasure.  I hope they found a new friend in B.O.B.

***Macy Gray joins a list of other women artist who have sang praises for self-love, including:
Tweet featuring Missy Elliot “Oops (Oh My)
T-Boz Touch Myself
Cynic Lauper, “She Bop”
Britney Spears “Touch of My Hand”
Janet Jackson made some kinky sounds on an intermission on The Velvet Rope album that strongly implied masturbation

What songs did I miss?