My First Book 'When A Purple Rose Blooms' is Available NOW

I am beyond excited to announce that my FIRST book When a Purple Rose Blooms is available!! You can order copies directly from my publisher Nomadic Press. Order here
The book is a collection of essays and poetry about my experiences with black womanhood. There's lots of humor, pain, and love on every page. This book wrote itself. I had no intention of releasing a book of poetry and essays, but when I saw how much I've written over the last 20 years I thought, "why not?" and went for it. 
The book launch is tonight, 7pm at the Oakland Peace Center. I will be launching my book along with 6 other new writers to Nomadic Press. I'm in great, literary company. 
Thank you to every person who has read this blog over the years, attended my readings, listened to my radio stories or read my articles. Thank you for your support. I hope you enjoy the book! 

Macy Gray Sings Her Heart Out to Her Vibrator B.O.B. and Encourages Women to Self-Pleasure

From Macy Gray's video B.O.B.
With all of the crazy, evil stuff going on in the world, I needed this laugh. Yes, singer Macy Gray made a love song about her Battery Operated Boyfriend or BOB. 

In this cheesy, adorable, cartoon music video that carries a lot of truth, she tells us what makes B.O.B. so great.


He gets me so excited. I turn him on. We go baby GO.
Start the fire and lightening, oooh ahhh oooh
I love my baby BOB…
He can go all night
Dark until the night
And we stop when I want to

I understand why she adores BOB and released a cartoon video with happy BOBs of different colors and batteries frolicking through her bedroom.

The song is catchy and the video is entertaining. Another reason why I like it is because it’s about masturbation. And a lot of women are uncomfortable talking about masturbation. Men are more open to talking about it than women. Macy Gray told Elle magazine, “I hope it opens women up to talk about what's really real for them. Women always have to be so private about [their sexuality] and their periods, whereas guys can just talk about their penises and whatever. Girls always have to be so ladylike about it. I hope girls can start talking...and just say the crudest stuff. 


I feel her, and I would also argue that women talking about masturbation or periods doesn’t even have to be crude. It can just be what it is. If you want to be crude about it, do you.

Self-pleasuring is healthy and it’s the safest form of sex you can have. Masturbation releases stress and anxiety. There are also studies that show women who do their “one-woman shows” have higher self-esteem and a more active sex life. You can read more about this at Women’s Health Magazine.

When I co-presented a workshop to women on pleasure after trauma, there were women in the room who had never masturbated. And some women said they were heading to Good Vibrations right after the workshop (Good Vibrations gave us a discount code for attendees). Some of these women were in their golden years and had never gave themselves pleasure.  I hope they found a new friend in B.O.B.





***Macy Gray joins a list of other women artist who have sang praises for self-love, including:
Tweet featuring Missy Elliot “Oops (Oh My)
T-Boz Touch Myself
Cynic Lauper, “She Bop”
Britney Spears “Touch of My Hand”
Janet Jackson made some kinky sounds on an intermission on The Velvet Rope album that strongly implied masturbation

What songs did I miss? 




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