Cheers! My Birthday Celebration with the Napa Valley Wine Country Tours

After losing my grandmother a few weeks before my birthday, I really needed to celebrate life. I know she would want me to do that. This year, I decided to ring in a new year of life in wine country. My soror traveled up from So Cal to visit. This would be her first time in Napa. I didn’t want to drive so instead, we bought bus tickets for the Napa Valley Wine Country Tours.

Let me tell you something, going on this bus tour was one of the BEST decisions I made. The Napa Valley Wine Country Tours bus isn’t just any bus. It’s a limo bus that looks like a VIP club lounge on wheels. We paid $119 for an 8-hour trip, visit to 4 wineries in Sonoma and Napa counties, continental breakfast and lunch. It was worth every penny. The tastings aren't covered in the bus fare, but they ran about $10-$25. Wineries won't charge you for tastings if you buy a bottle. I recommend this for tourists and any Bay Area locals who have folks visiting from out of town and want a short excursion to Nap…

You’re Never Too Old to Feel Sexy

Granny's Makeup Bag
Photo by Jenee Darden

Look what I found on my grandmother’s bathroom counter. I have three grandmothers, two biological (of course) and one through marriage. I won’t put the owner of this makeup bag on blast and say which grandma owns this bag. Honestly, all three of them bring their on spice to life. Any one of them could be the owner.

I discovered the “Sexy” bag on my grandma’s bathroom counter during an after-church Sunday visit. I playfully asked my grandma who was the owner of the makeup bag. I knew it was hers since she’s the only woman in the house. She was kind of coy and acted like she didn’t know what I was talking about. Then she told me she bought it because of the color, not the word on the bag. I challenged her on that excuse. She raised her voice and said, “I bought it three years ago!” When she bought the bag is totally irrelevant but I guess that was her best defense. LOL

Honestly, I thought it was cool she owned the bag. And I loved it even more that she had the bag out after returning from church. Knowing that my 70-something year old grandmother had this velvety-textured cosmetic bag with the word “Sexy” blinged out across it made me appreciate her as a woman even more.  I guess no matter how old a woman may be, she still wants to feel sexy. She still wants to look pretty and feel desired.  And my grandmother deserves to feel that way, just as her granddaughter.

In case you didn’t know (or don’t want to know) some seniors are sexually active.  A Psychology Today article says people over 50 is the group with the fastest growing rates of STDs. And they’re the largest consumers of vibrators. Yes kids, Granny and Papa are still getting their freak on.

Discovering my grandmother’s “Sexy” makeup bag gives me hope that once I become seasoned in age, I’ll still have some spice. But I wonder, when you are an older woman, does feeling sexy become harder because it’s equated with youth? Or is it just like any woman who does not resemble Malibu Beach Barbie; you define your own beauty?

I’m going to take a detour. Have you seen the “Mirror” series by photographer Tom Hussey? It’s really amazing. They’re photos of elderly people looking in the mirror, but the reflection they see of themselves is from their youth. I read the people in the photos are models.  I read it’s going to be used for an Alzheimer medicine ad. But mental health aside, I’ve talked to seniors and some have told me they don’t feel their age. I don’t feel like I’m 30-something-something. I love the maturity and understanding that comes with being 30. And when I look in the mirror, I don’t see a 30-ish-year-old woman. I have another grandma who told me she doesn’t feel 70-ish in her mind. But her body reminds her. This is the same grandma who wanted to try Cristal because she saw Jay-Z rapping about it on BET.  Why she was watching Jay-Z and BET, I don’t know.

I think of women like THE Elizabeth Taylor and the amazing Eartha Kitt, two women who kept it glam even in their golden years. Elizabeth Taylor had a younger, black boyfriend when she died.  Remember when Eartha tried to seduce Eddie Murphy in Boomerang? These two women did not stop in their lives. And what about Tina Turner?!. She still turns heads at 73 and is marrying her younger partner after dating for 27 years.

These women make me wonder. Maybe your sexiness evolves as you age, but remains everlasting as long as you still see it in yourself.