My First Book 'When A Purple Rose Blooms' is Available NOW

I am beyond excited to announce that my FIRST book When a Purple Rose Blooms is available!! You can order copies directly from my publisher Nomadic Press. Order here
The book is a collection of essays and poetry about my experiences with black womanhood. There's lots of humor, pain, and love on every page. This book wrote itself. I had no intention of releasing a book of poetry and essays, but when I saw how much I've written over the last 20 years I thought, "why not?" and went for it. 
The book launch is tonight, 7pm at the Oakland Peace Center. I will be launching my book along with 6 other new writers to Nomadic Press. I'm in great, literary company. 
Thank you to every person who has read this blog over the years, attended my readings, listened to my radio stories or read my articles. Thank you for your support. I hope you enjoy the book! 

Janelle Monae's New Video

NEW YORK - FEBRUARY 27: Singer Janelle Monae attends BET's Rip The Runway 2010 at the Hammerstein Ballroom on February 27, 2010 in New York City. (Photo by Bryan Bedder/Getty Images)
"Cold War" is one of the songs I keep on repeat when I'm jamming to futuristic funky diva Janelle Monae. The song, from her ArchAndroid album, is about the struggle of being an individual and not following the crowd.

So you think I'm alone?
But being alone's the only way to be
When you step outside
You spend life fighting for your sanity

This is a cold war
You better know what you're fighting for
This is a cold war
Do you know what you're fighting for?

"Cold War" is kind of along the lines of the "Group Think" theory Erykah Badu addresses in "Window Seat." I recently turned 31 and the great thing about getting older is the less I care about what others think. And the more I realize I can't make everyone happy. When I first decided to name this blog Cocoa Fly, some people thought I should name it something else. But I followed my heart and most people tell me they like the name of my blog when they first hear it. And I'm so happy I ignored a professor at my journalism school who told me I didn't have the right voice for radio. Thank goodness I had enough sense to do what I KNEW was right.
That's not to say I don't take others feelings into consideration. I know my actions, big or small, can affect many. But as my grandmother says, "Child, you can't always listen to folks because they'll have you running." Think about it. What if Prince, Barbara Streisand, Terry McMillan, Cosmo magazine founder Helen Gurley Brown, Jospehine Baker and others followed the crowd? Ask yourself are you living to please yourself or others?

Check out the "Cold War" video below. The whole video is closeup of Monae. She actually dropped the tux in this one. I wish more people would look past her signature tuxedos because she's really beautiful. Notice her rich brown skin and the angles of her facial bone structure. Makes me want to use my Mary Kay mask tonight ;)


  1. I totally agree about Janelle...most people are too stuck on how they think she looks than how flawless she actually is. Her bone structure and eyes are ridiculous! And the girl can sing.

    Anywhoo, I also agree with you about the name of your blog. I was told the same thing about my blog (The Broken Brown Egg), by friends, but now when readers send me private messages, their liking it(the name)is usually the first thing they say. And I love yours!

  2. @ Mrs Tiye-- Thanks for your comment and I love the name of your blog. I also love the subject. What a great concept. I think b/c of the way black people have been racialized and sexualized, you rarely hear about us have fertility challenges. Usually you hear stories about us having too many children we can't care for. And sometimes we as black people are not comfortable disucssing fertility challenges. I wish you and your husband luck in conceiving. One of my relatives had the same issue. After giving up on the idea of a baby and having a bit too much Patron tequilla on New Years Eve his wife became pregnant. You never know what may work :)

  3. Sorry for the typos, it's waaaaayyyyy past my bedtime.


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