A few weeks ago I went to a house/birthday party. On top of the good food, endless drinks and post-tequila Soul Train line, there was a drag show in the backyard. One of the acts impersonated Tina Turner and performed "Private Dancer." I called the drag queen LaTina Turner because she was, well, Latina. A few people in the audience stuffed money down her cleavage to tip her. I enjoyed the show and decided tip her. Mind you, I'm prissy so just imagine someone with a little bit of swag like Sandra from "227" or Whitley of "A Different World" walking up to the stage area. I pranced up to LaTina Turner and delicately slid the dollars down her sequin dress. As I returned to my front-row seat/beverage cooler, some woman with a camera next me stops snapping pictures, turns to me and snidely says, "Did you have to be dainty about it?" READ MORE
I had no idea who this woman was and why she was up in my business. I didn't respond because she caught me off guard. The show was still going on and I was in the front. I didn't want to cause a disturbance. Everyone was having a good time and she decided to be nasty. But I've ran into prissy-haters like her before. My whole life I've dealt with women who thought because I am prissy at times, that makes me weak. Then when I stand up for myself and check them, they realize they were mistaken. Maybe they think I've put the feminist movement back 50 years. Or maybe they're insecure. I think the answer is B.
I am Proud to be Prissy! I like makeup, fashion, the color pink, lace, satin, dolls,dresses, romantic comedies, Miss Piggy, apple martinis, all things Sex and the City and Disney movies. I think there should be a channel that airs nothing but What Not To Wear and Say Yes to the Dress 24/7. I have no problem asking a man to kill a bug for me and I don't have an athletic bone in my body (see my recent hiking
Josephine Baker was ultra-feminine, and rebelled against race discrimination in the entertainment world. Dororthy Height dressed to kill in her signature hat and suit ensembles all while making power moves for black folks' civil rights. Princess Diana was regal and righteous. One day you see a picture of her in a beautiful gown, the next day she's in a hospital holding sick children. I'm not saying these women were necessarily prissy like me. They're all examples of very feminine women who packed power and influence.
There are many ways to spell W-O-M-A-N. As a black woman, I look at my enslaved ancestors who were looked upon as labor and not ladies. That thinking of black women being "sub-woman" still lives today. But like Sojourner Truth said in her famous speech, "Ain't I a woman?" Nearly 160 years later that question is still relevent today. Except I think the question is more pressing in the black community today. But I'll get to that in another post.
To answer Sister Truth's question I say, "Yes, Yes, Yes I AM A WOMAN." I say YES, I'm a woman when a man holds a door open for me. I say YES I'm a woman when sexism closes the door of opportunity on me and I kick it down. I say YES I'm a woman when I still pursue my goals and dreams after someone tells me "no." I say YES I'm a woman when I spray on perfume and admire myself in a yellow sundress and floppy straw hat. I say YES I'm a woman when I'm out serving the community. I say Yes I'm a woman when I tell them "No." I say YES I'm a woman when I speak out against sexual abuse of women and children. I say YES I'm a woman after baking a mean sweet potato pie. I say YES I'm a woman while grocery shopping in my USC sweatshirt. I say YES I'm a woman when I'm turning heads in a black cocktail dress. By the way, those are the heads of black men, white men, Asian men, Latino men, etc Honey, I say YES I'm a woman when those who can't handle me try to steal my joy. I say YES and just keep on going.
Why did that woman at the party felt the need to be rude? I don't know and life is too short for me to try and figure out an answer. All I know is some women spell "woman" I-N-S-E-C-U-R-I-T-Y. When you're REALLY true to yourself, you simply spell "woman" with two letters: M-E.
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