I'm Speaking at Creative Mornings in Oakland!

UPDATE: Watch my speech below!

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This Friday, Jan 26th I will be speaking about living with anxiety challenges and mental health for Creative Mornings. I HATE anxiety. Hate it. But my love for stopping mental health stigma by sharing my story is stronger. I'll also talk about facing our normal, everyday anxieties.

Registration opens this Monday at 11am. They go quick so make sure you sign up ASAP.

Disturbing Black Hair Video

I almost didn't blog about this video but it made me sick. I learned of it from NPR's "Tell Me More" blog. I remember getting my hair "combed out" after my grandmother washed it and got it ready for a press. It wasn't fun, but it wasn't brutal like what is shown above. What I see in this video is abuse and Youtube should remove it. I flagged it on You Tube for "inappropriate content." The woman is swearing at the little girl and using the F-word when the child is yelling for her to stop tearing through her hair. I'm not sure of the relationship between the woman and the girl. And I feel like she's combing the girl's hair with hatred. Why is this child being punished for having nappy hair? The person recording the video has the nerve to laugh while this little girl is getting tortured. Instead of putting the child down for her hair texture why not make her feel beautiful? Tell her how her hair soft feels when it's bushy. Sing to her as you GENTLY comb through it. Compliment the girl about the smell of her hair when you oil her scalp. Compare her hair to the color of honey or light brown sugar. Make her feel good about herself. But I guess this woman couldn't do that because tugs and insults make more sense.

My grandmother never pulled and tugged on my head like what that child is enduring. This was BEFORE my grandma learned of detangler (thank the Lord for Hawaiin Silky). I can only imagine the psychological scars this child will have. This is that self-hate I was talking about in the Tameka Raymond post below. Black folks, we need to get over our hair issues and the woman in the video is heartless. Black, white, brown, yellow and pink people--don't have children or take care of them if you don't want to be bothered.

I'm all for free speech and I love YouTube. However, when a child is screaming and being yelled out on a video, that' s a problem. If you're registered on YouTube and have an issue with this video go to their website by clicking here and right under the video click the flag. I couldn't find an alternative way to contact YouTube about inappropriate material if you're not registered on the site. Maybe you can find something here. I've seen people brush their dog' s fur with more care. Sick, sick, sickening.