Starting Your Dreams Later In Life and Embracing the Detour

Jenee Darden speaking at Creative Mornings I know it's been a while since I've posted anything but that's because of my job. I'm working as a reporter covering Oakland and I host an arts segment on the radio where I get to interview amazing artists from around the Bay Area. Plus I'm publicizing my book  and building my speaking career!  You know what's funny? I thought this would all happen by the time I was 27-30.  Nope. That wasn't God's plan for me. I'm finally beginning to do the things I've wanted to do and I'm almost 40 years old. Some people reading this who are 40 will say 40 is still young. But some younger people reading may think 40 is nearly ancient. But I'm writing this post for those who like me, thought their career and personal dreams would come true much early in life. I'm here to tell you not to give up.  You know, death inspires life. A number of my relatives and friends have passed away, ranging in

It's Not Worth Dying Over A Broken Heart

What's up with people nowadays? Why do some folks feel they have to bust a cap, or two or four in somebody if they can't get what they want? According to TMZ and the NY Daily News police say McNair was a victim of a murder suicide. Cops say his 20-year-old mistress, Sahel Kazemi shot him four times while he was asleep. Then she pulled the trigger on herself.

Let's keep it real. Homegirl was a waitress at Dave & Busters driving a Kia. And friends say she was having financial problems. She meets this handsome, rich ex-athlete who laces her with a SUV and other nice goodies. Her family also said Sahel had a hard life but seemed happy with McNair. The brotha promises to leave his wife of 12 years for her. Sahel's 20-year-old heart believed him. Rule #1: They RARELY leave their wives. But Sahel was naive and thought she was Steve's number one. Until she suspected he had another jump off. Friends say she thought Mcnair was cheating on her with someone else. But she hadn't lived long enough to connect the dots. If he's cheating on his wife with you.... So McNair's behavior along with her money problems makes this young girl, who had her whole life ahead of her, goes to the glock for answers. Because guns are always the solution.
Too bad Sahel didn't know broken hearts heal. Too bad she didn't have the faith to understand life ain't no crystal stair but it can get better. Or that there a lot of people in this country right now who are one check away from a homeless shelter. This is a sad situation for both families of the dead. But I absolutely don't excuse Sahel Kazemi's actions. She was senseless and selfish.

I don't understand some people. If the girl or guy doesn't want you anymore just MOVE ON. Trust me, I've had my heart stomped on, kicked around, thrown on the dance floor for some dude to do the stanky leg on it. A broken heart hurts like hell. But he wasn't worth my life or prison time. There's someone better out there. And Sahel would've met a better guy too if she hadn't chosen the Fatal Attraction route.

Steve McNair doesn't get a pass from me for cheating on his wife and toying with this girl's feelings. But he didn't deserve to die. Five bullets, two young people dead, four children left fatherless. For what?

Photo credit:
NY Daily News


  1. Excellent post! I don't know anyone that would go to the extremes she did (at least I hope I don't), but I do have quite a few friends who have given up their lives (figuratively) for me. I don't get it either.


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